Why shouldn't children hysterics be encouraged? - Pieces of advice for parents

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Why shouldn't children hysterics be encouraged? It's also one of the most perturbing questions for young parents. Perhaps, our pieces of advice will help you cope with the problem. «Give me a sweet, please,» says a kid. He doesn't ask, he demands. You can't think of any persuasion — dinner time is coming, you'll spoil your appetite or you'll have a tooth ache, they don't help. A child becomes angry, starts crying and stamping his feet, sometimes, he can even fall down and writhe in hysterics. Such a behavior of your child will worry and nonplus everybody. To be quiet in the situation like that isn't simple! And there are some parents who are absolutely at a loss, they don't know how to react.
Why shouldn't children hysterics be encouraged? - Pieces of advice for parents

There are some simple ways which can be used by parents in this situation.

1. No spectators — no «performance»!

On seeing the kid's hysterics, it's better to pretend that nothing special has happened. Going off into hysterics, children usually want to produce an impression on their parents and get what they wish. Any kid is a small actor who needs spectators and their positive reaction for his good acting. But if there are no spectators, there's no «performance». Paradoxically, but the best medicine from the children hysterics is indifference for show.
Mum should go on being busy with her affairs, or even leave the room at the moment of hysterics, letting her little one stay with his whim by himself. It'll disappear at once. When the kid realizes that his «scene» hasn't produced an expected effect, he'll quickly lose an interest in it. On the contrary, a positive reaction on his hysterics will help the child understand, that in this way he can achieve anything.

2. Distract attention.

It happens so that a kid is overexcited and can't calm down. In this case you should turn his attention to something else. For example, «Whose dog is running in the yard?» or «Look! What a nice bird is sitting in the tree.» Later on, when the attention from hysterics is distracted and his tears have dried, discuss with the child where the dog ran away and the bird flew. Don't remind the child about his hysterics, but you yourself analyze its reasons. As a rule, the reasons are the two — heightened excitability or the wrong education. Remember, if the kid satisfies his desire with the help of crying and tears, he'll constantly act in this way!

3. Say firmly: «No!»

Don't scold the child for hysterics, because a nervous and sensitive one needs more parents' understanding, patience and care than a quiet kid — it's not his fault that he was born more excitable. Avoid conflict situations and ambiguous promises. If you've said «no», let it be so. The more quickly the child learns it, the fewer reasons for hysterics will be.

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Thank you for this material, it helped and made me think much, as I`ve got some problems with my daughter.
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